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Turning around a failure

I have exams this week and I have been beyond stressed lately, to the point where I’ve been driving myself crazy.  On top of everything, I haven’t been able to practice for a while because my pole broke and I’m waiting to receive a part from the company.  To relieve some stress, I decided to work a practice into my schedule yesterday at the studio.  My main goal for the day was to film a routine I had put together but had not been able to rehearse at home.  I wanted to be able to use the video as a submission for an upcoming showcase, and although I knew it probably wouldn’t be perfect, at least it would be a start.  At best, I hoped to run through the routine a couple times and film it just so I could go back and see what needed to be fixed; I would worry about perfecting it later.  In reality, things didn’t go so well.  (more…)


December 8, 2011 at 5:07 pm Leave a comment

Changing the photo on your fridge

Around the time that I started pole dancing, I found a picture online of a woman doing an inside leg hang that I thought looked just beautiful.  It certainly wasn’t a move I could do at the time (in fact, I wasn’t even close to being able to do any inverted moves at the time), but I printed it out and taped it to my fridge because I figured, well, maybe I’ll be able to do this eventually.  And when I can do this move, then I’ll know that I’ve really gotten somewhere. (more…)

October 10, 2011 at 1:14 am 3 comments


So I’ve hit a block.  I’m at a point where I have several advanced moves under my belt.  But as I have been doing more freestyles and composing more choreography, I’ve realized that my repertoire of “wow” moves – moves I love to do and can do well and that I believe showcase my talents best – is quite limited.  These aren’t necessarily the most advanced moves I know, but they’re at least the mildly impressive moves I feel comfortable with.  For instance, I have a pretty bendy back, so the forearm stand and rubber pencil fall into this category for me.  I also love doing the cross knee release, drama queen, butterfly, and gemini, and I love doing them A LOT.  As in, those are my default moves whenever I freestyle.  I’m trying to get away from doing them all of the time, but what else do I do instead?  I learn new tricks.  However, there are a lot of tricks I would love to learn that I just can’t do because I’m not flexible.  So I work on my flexibility.  But then I’m not actually doing anything on the pole.  And then, there are still those other tricks that fall through the cracks – the ones I have learned but don’t like or can’t do well, so I don’t do them.  And THEN, there are the ones in the middle – the ones I’m okay with, which could be better but which I’m too lazy to improve.  Arrrggg! (more…)

September 12, 2011 at 11:29 am 2 comments

My pole is my therapist

This summer has been very difficult for me in many ways. There’s a lot going on in my family right now, and every time I’ve gone home to visit I’ve received bad news. This weekend was especially traumatic, and the worst part is that I can’t talk about it with even my dearest friends because that would be violating my family’s privacy. However, it’s something I’m going to have to deal with for the next several months, and I know it’s going to weigh heavily on my heart.

I’m not going to pretend that when I pole dance all of my worries flutter away like carefree little butterflies.  But I can say that being able to go to class every week still gives me something to look forward to.  Nailing a move still gives me a rush of positivity.  Creating a routine still gives my brain something to do when I need to stop thinking about all of the things that are haunting me. (more…)

July 25, 2011 at 6:57 pm 2 comments

Pulling yourself out of a rut

I don’t have time to practice.  I can’t find a song that inspires me.  I don’t feel like dancing.  I’ll never be that flexible.  I can’t nail that one move that everyone else can do.  I’m tired and worn out and the last thing I want to do is jump on a cold pole and rip up my skin.

Excuses, excuses, excuses.

You’ve heard it before: often the only thing standing in the way of your success is yourself.  Here are some ideas to help you get out of your rut. (more…)

July 6, 2011 at 9:41 am 1 comment

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