Pulling yourself out of a rut

July 6, 2011 at 9:41 am 1 comment

I don’t have time to practice.  I can’t find a song that inspires me.  I don’t feel like dancing.  I’ll never be that flexible.  I can’t nail that one move that everyone else can do.  I’m tired and worn out and the last thing I want to do is jump on a cold pole and rip up my skin.

Excuses, excuses, excuses.

You’ve heard it before: often the only thing standing in the way of your success is yourself.  Here are some ideas to help you get out of your rut.

  • Write down your goals.  What moves do you want to learn?  Be reasonable.  You might wish you could do a spatchcock like Felix Cane, but if you don’t have the flexibility you might have to lower the bar.  Pick just a few that are either within or just above your abilities.  Leave out moves you’ve been working on for so long that they’ve become frustrating.  The point is to progress, not to run yourself into the ground.  You’ll feel better mastering a couple new moves than beating yourself up over one that eludes you.
  • Dance.  Even if you don’t feel like it.  Even if you don’t have much time.  Even if you don’t do any tricks.  Just do it.
  • Watch videos.  What do you find beautiful and compelling about other dancers?  Is it a unique way of climbing, of transitioning from one move to the next, of coming out of a spin?  Pick something that catches your eye, try it for yourself and see if you can make it your own.
  • Check out other forms of dance.  I find that the most original routines incorporate other styles; for instance, ballet stresses long lines, graceful posture, and pointed toes, and modern dance encourages interpretation, fluidity, and is great for inspiring floor work.  You might find some interesting moves you’ve never seen before that would make a great addition to your next pole routine.
  • Speaking of pole routines, if you’ve never tried creating one, this would be a great time to start.  You don’t have to struggle to fit everything you know into a whole song – just pick a couple moves that you can easily put together, pick a verse or two from a song you like, and go for it.  And while you’re at it…
  • Videotape yourself if you don’t already.  You might be pleasantly surprised by what you see, and at the very least, it might give you something new to work on.
  • Know when to walk away.  If you are so frustrated that you’re at your wit’s end, sometimes the best thing to do is take a break.  You don’t want pole dancing to become unsafe.  Stepping back from all of the negativity will give you a chance to breathe and relax.  After a while, you’ll probably start to miss it – and by then, you’ll probably have escaped your rut.

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  • 1. Mrs. Naughtywed  |  July 6, 2011 at 3:33 pm

    Hey hun! I think it’s normal to go through ruts. There are times when I don’t feel like pole dancing but I want to. What get’s me motivated is going on youtube and looking at lots of pole videos. Sometimes I make notes on some of the dancers moves. Usually that gets me in the mood. 🙂


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